When relationships work, they add to our lives, heal us and bring us love, joy and acceptance. But, being in a relationship that works requires a skills, information and and awareness that most of us were never given.
We are taught that relationships take “hard work” and that to be in a good relationship means that you have to be patient, loving and kind, which often translates, for many of us, to tolerating things we don’t like and giving up what we want.
We think we get brownie points for being “nice”, but what we really get is resentment, frustration, despair and even physical illness.
If you’re like most people I coach, you really love your partner, you remember those close moments of connection at the beginning of your relationship, but the challenges of living together and staying connected has left you frustrated, hurt and even feeling unloved.
Or, maybe your relationship is okay, but you’ve fallen into old patterns and habits and are looking for that “zing” and don’t know how to take your relationship from being good to being great.